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Not Everyone You Love is Going to Leave You
I’m used to being abandoned. I’m used to being disappointed, let down, led on, and pushed to the side afterwards. At first, I was naive to it. I didn’t think people were intentionally trying to hurt me, but after awhile it started to feel like a casual joke. It was something that I just simply expected without much explanation. Why would anyone stick around and be there for me? First, it was the two father figures in my life — biological and adoptive. Maybe “father figure” is a bit lenient and generous to call the guys who were too selfish or cowardly to be there for me when their daughter needed them the most. Others were people who drifted into my life, embracing this grand entrance, and I thought that they were significant. As time progressed and disappointments turned into something regular, I stopped caring. I gave the people who abandoned me too many chances each time they came around. It’s like I never learned, because no matter what, I continued to see the best in people and believed in multiple chances. I had my heart broken and my soul burned. I felt like an idiot or a fool and I wanted to erase all of the precious time spent with those who took me for granted and walked away like it was the easiest thing in the world. Little did they know I had a huge heart, and I had so much love to give. Little did I know — they didn’t deserve any of that love. They didn’t deserve all my stories, all of my accomplishments, or getting to know the amazing, resilient person I was becoming. I was only resilient because of them and all the stupid letdowns they threw at me.
By Julia Busshardt8 years ago in Humans
5 Last Minute Gift Ideas for Your Lady
You f***ed up this time. You've always been a procrastinator, haven't you? Well, you're not alone. I guess the Christmas spirit arrives a little late for the male gender... Because most men decide to go Christmas shopping at the last minute.
By Baylee Tyree8 years ago in Humans
Move Off of Drama Boulevard
Before approaching any situation pertaining to gossip, take a good and long look at the source. Make sure the information is credible then by all means address it in a less aggressive manner. There are far more important things in life than constant turmoil. People who live on drama boulevard should take that same motivation and use it in a way that will be beneficial to them and their family.
By Screamin Tearz8 years ago in Humans
Why Your Husband Doesn't Do Things for You...
Let’s be serious for a moment. MEN DON’T, AND CAN’T, TAKE HINTS. They don’t understand insinuations, and they won’t do things just because you talk about them needing to be done. They will step over that mess, pile dishes by the sink, and continue to push down that overflowing trash can. They do not see things the same way that we do. They can step over the laundry, not worry about the dust in the house, and piss into a toilet that clearly needs to be cleaned. I’ve said it before, and I'll say it again—their brains just don’t work like ours. This brings me to why your husband doesn't help you, and you feel like he's not listening to you.
By Shana Nizeul8 years ago in Humans
What Do We Do Now
I have come to notice that most relationships go through a phase in which the two participants become distant, loveless, sometimes angry, sexless, etc. I have especially seen this in couples that have produced children, a loved family member passes away, basically just big changes that are hard for the human mind to process.
By Josie Dehart8 years ago in Humans
Things You Should Do to Help People Who Have Lost Loved Ones Recently
When you lose someone, it takes a little piece of you that you can never get back. I recently lost my aunt that I was very close to in September of this year. I still am having really rough days and times, especially with the holidays, and with people who just don't get it, understand, or don't worry about you when they should be. The list goes on and on, but I'll share a couple tips for helping that person.
By Daighla Williams8 years ago in Humans
6 Ways to Know You're About to be Ghosted
The vanishing act that is known as ghosting is one of the downfalls of modern dating. What is ghosting? Ghosting is when you suddenly don't want to date the person that you are dating anymore and simply end all communications with them rather than have to break up with them or talk to them. Some ghosters say that they ghost their dates to spare their feelings of the break up but really, in the end, it causes more heartbreak and confusion from not having a reason of why the relationship has ended. Basically, it's the cowards way out of the relationship. Ghosting can be emotionally exhausting for the person that is being ghosted. This is becoming a more and more common occurrence as a way to end a relationship. Below is a list of signs to look for when you're about to be ghosted.
By Liana Hewitt8 years ago in Humans
What Men Hate About Relationships
What do men hate most when they are in a relationship with someone? It pretty much depends on who the man is with. If the women is self-sufficient and confident in everything she does, than the man is pretty darn happy with who he is with. On the other hand, if he is in a relationship with someone who is always checking in with him to see what he is up to and nags at him constantly about everything, chances are he's miserable in that relationship.
By Samantha Lahm8 years ago in Humans
Letting Go
Sometimes the hardest thing one must do is let go. Whether it is a relationship, friendship, or even a family member. I can admit that it’s easier said than done. Sometimes we love people who are just toxic to us, and no matter what we do, we cannot change their ways. I’m not saying to change them into someone else. What I mean is that the people that are toxic are the ones that use poisons to escape reality, such as pills, alcohol, coke, heroin, etc. They must be the ones that want to change. I learned this the hard way. I thought that I could show the people I love that they are so much more, but I felt like failed because they don’t want to change. They like the poisons they consume, and because of this I had to do what is best for me. For once in my life, I was able to say no and to say goodbye even though it was hard for me to do so.
By Nadia Tapia8 years ago in Humans
Some People Are Better Left in the Past
Pain will leave you, when you let go. - Jeremy Aldana Many people give too much importance to holding onto what is important to you and although that is true, I want to focus on the fact that sometimes it is okay to LET GO. A lot of the time the hardest thing to do is to walk away from a situation that doesn't serve you anymore. We get too comfortable with the routine of life.
By The Graceful Truth8 years ago in Humans
